By definition, a woman is the female of the human race, grown to adult years. Who would think to dispute that simple and straightforward statement? Still, recently, there has been a growing debate focused on what it means to be called a woman, with both, men and women, weighing in on the topic with, sometimes profound but oftentimes, foolish assumptions of womanhood. They fail to see the beauty of our created persons because many believe that we can now recreate ourselves into whatever image we so desire. We are told how to speak, how to dress, and what to think. We are told that in order to be relevant, we must be young and beautiful. We are even told that the path to success is through any means necessary, and we should be willing to step on anyone on the way up, survival of the fittest after all.
But none of these are messages that we get from scripture. So, who does God say we are?
As Christian women, whether married or single, we are the bride of Christ, a wife of noble character as defined in Proverbs 31.
Read Proverbs 31
As you see, the Bible offers us different messages about what it means to be successful and how we should carry ourselves in society. It instructs us on how to be godly women.
In preparing for this topic I have found, what I believe are five steps to becoming the godly women we were designed to be.
Step 1: To be a godly woman we are to love God with all of our heart, with all of our soul, and with all of our mind.
We know this because when Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was, he answered saying exactly that in Matthew 22: 37. I like to paraphrase it this way, love God with everything you have. The first step to being a godly woman is to develop a love for God that is unmatched by anything else in the world. Your love for God must supersede everything.
God first really means God before our family, children, job, or possessions. There should be nothing more important to us.
Step 2: The second thing we need to be a godly woman follows closely behind the first step and can also be found in Matthew 22, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
That means we are to love everyone. That includes those who are not entirely likeable. When God says love your neighbor, we don’t pick and choose. We are told to love others with the same intensity with which we love ourselves. Unfortunately, many women struggle with loving themselves correctly. We often love ourselves too little, not knowing our true value as daughters of God. This must change. A godly woman is a woman that is actively concerned for others because she places the same value on others as she places on herself.
Step 3: The third step of being a godly woman is to be full of wisdom and kindness.
A godly woman embodies the wisdom of God. In the King James version Proverbs 31 verse 26 says, “She opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” Wisdom is not the same as knowledge. Knowledge is the acquisition of information. Wisdom is understanding how to use it. As we grow in grace and love for God and our neighbor, we will also grow in wisdom. The second part of this is that a godly woman does all of this with kindness. Society tells us that kindness is weakness, but a woman that carries herself with a kind disposition should not be considered soft, weak, or even naïve. She is displaying a godly character. Regardless of what others may say, wisdom and kindness are necessary for godly character
Step 4 : The fourth step is that godly women are merciful and forgiving
A godly woman is one who focuses on helping others. Jesus through his words and life makes it painfully clear that talking about God, knowing about God, or even loving God is not enough. That love must translate to action towards our fellow human beings. A godly woman is a woman that is concerned about the well-being of the less fortunate and who takes steps to be fair and just in all her interactions. When people do us wrong, when we help people and don’t get so much as a thank you, we are to forgive them. Because a godly woman loves mercy, she is merciful towards all. Jesus reminds us that blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy. Therefore, mercy must always be a part of our lives.
Step 5: My final point is that godly women must demonstrate humility.
Micah 6:8 says, “And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.
Society will tell us that there is virtue in being strong, outspoken, and ambitious, yet God asks us for humility. Now please don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being strong, speaking up, or being ambitious. Many women possess these dispositions brought by their nature or by circumstances out of their control. However, God still asks us to walk with humility. Humility isn’t opposed to strength, ambition, and outspokenness. Humility undergirds our strength. It guides our ambition. It informs our speech.
In summary, as women of God, we are required to love God with everything we have, to love others as ourselves, to exhibit wisdom and kindness, to do justice and love mercy, and to walk in humility. These are the traits that God asked all of us to have as godly women.
Finally, I’d like to end with Matthew 28:19, “ Go ye therefore, and teach all nations…”
Go ye… this is the one phrase that inspires missionaries worldwide to leave the comfort of the known and head out into the unknown proclaiming the good news. Go ye… causes them to disregard all comfort to go tell others about the salvation of Christ. But so are we. When Christ says to go, he’s speaking to each one of us. Go ye.. into the schools. Go ye.. into your place of employment. Go ye… into the marketplace. Go ye… wherever your feet carry you. Go ye…and teach the word of God, lead others to Christ, be a Christian example of love, display the fruits of the Spirit, so that the world can taste and see that the Lord is good.
Because more than a Christ we speak of, the world needs a Christ they can see. And that’s you and that’s me.
Until next time, much love.